By Claire Molinard
If you were at the Mystery School in Holland, you know that there was one question at the core of the whole week:
What is the future of relationships?
How do we stop repeating the same breakdown loops and step into intimacy that is real, that endures, that participates in the very evolution of love itself—all the way up and all the way down?
In response, we’re opening the next portal in the journey we started last year to articulate the next chapter in the Unique Self teaching that was published in 2011:
Portal 3 of Unique Self 2.0 — The Future of Relationships: Why Soul Mate Is Not the Answer
A three-week course with Dr. Marc Gafni, beginning June 8.
This isn’t a simple relationship course.
This is about evolving the source code that underlies all relationships.
It’s about shifting the architecture of how we love—from the inside out.
✦ Reality Is Relationship
Let’s begin at the beginning. As Marc reminds us:
“Reality is relationship. Reality is evolution. Reality is the evolution of relationship.”
That is to say that ontologically, the quality of our life is measured by the quality of our relationships—starting with your relationship to ourself, to our beloveds, to reality, to God.
And yet… even the most sincere, evolved, growth-oriented among us find ourselves stuck in patterns of heartbreak, repetition, and disconnection. We do the work. We seek intimacy. But something still breaks down.
Why?
Because we’ve been chasing a vision of love that’s no longer big enough.
✦ The Myth That Breaks Us
There’s a tragic flaw at the heart of the modern love story. The myth of the soul mate.
“We’ve killed all the gods except Aphrodite,” says Dr Marc Gafni, “and we offer her libations in the form of the soul mate fantasy. But she’s rejecting the offering. Soul mate by itself never works.”
We’ve been told that if we find “the one,” everything will click. But too often, the soul mate ideal delivers disillusionment. Not because we’re broken. But because the story is.
The pain many of us carry is not from loving too much—but from loving in a limited structure that cannot hold our depth, our multiplicity, or our evolution.
This course is about naming that structure—and stepping beyond it.
From Role Mate to Soul Mate to Whole Mate
In this course, Marc will guide us through a powerful new map of relationship. We’ll move through three evolutionary stations:
Role Mate
We relate through functions, roles, agreements. Necessary, but often rigid.
What self shows up in role mate? What values?
Soul Mate
The romantic ideal that captures our longing for depth and connection, but often distorts it.
Why is soul mate tragic? What’s the real reason it never quite works?
Whole Mate
The post-tragic emergence of intimacy rooted in Unique Self.
Not a rejection of what came before, but a radical integration and transcendence.
Each of these stages reveals a different configuration of self and other. And all of them must be understood not just psychologically, but existentially, mystically, and cosmically.
Unique Self at our Core Identity
At the heart of it all is our Unique Self—our irreducible essence, our perspective, our precise offering to the world.
“Only when I have a deeper answer to the question, ‘Who am I?’ can I emerge a new structure of relationship.”
This is what makes this course different. It’s not about giving you five tools for better communication.
It’s about entering into a new kind of intimacy. One that is capable of holding the fullness of who we are and who we are becoming together.
What We’ll Explore
Over three live sessions, we’ll dive deep into:
- Relationship as the core structure of reality
- Why every personal and global crisis is a crisis of intimacy
- The structural flaw in the soul mate myth—and how to transcend it
- The Whole Mate template for post-tragic love
- How evolving relationship and evolving identity are inseparable
This is the next unfolding of the Unique Self Dharma. This is Portal 3. And it begins June 8. Come if you’re in a relationship. Come if you’re not. Come if you’re ready to love—not in the old story, but in the new one.
“We’re going to imagine the future of relationships—not abstractly, but practically, tenderly, fiercely. We’re going to feel it, name it, map it. Together.”
Click here to register.